In a world where hardened hearts are common how do you become a warm hearted and trusting person after years of harm in many disguised forms?
We live in a time where hurt gets hurt and love and trust are simply words that fall from a dissected language. Humans are walking around full of anger, resentment, hostility and entitlement and wonder why life is not going their way. We need to do better, all of us. If you believe that you are doing enough, do more.
Relationships of all kinds tear us apart and our parents are no exception. As a child kids can be cruel and parents can be unforgiving. Teachers can destroy self-esteem. There is an endless list of different types of trauma that each individual encounters in their life time and there are ways in which we can allow ourself peace from these places.
As someone who never felt safe, loveable, accepted, good enough, worthy and all the other words that depict feelings of misery and inadequacy I have had to relearn how to live.
I have had to learn how to radically accept myself.
I have had to learn how to radically accept others for who they are.
I have had to put down the martyrdom.
I have had to let go of people for showing me the truth of who they are.
I have had to take ownership of my own victimhood.
I have had to forgive those who have harmed and abused me.
I have had to treat my body better.
I have had to create better boundaries.
I have had to create my own business to feel more freedom in life.
I have had to talk to my parents about the truth.
I have had to read a lot of books.
I have had to use Reiki every day.
I have had to meditate every day.
I have had to open my heart again and again.
I have had to be unapologetic in my authenticity.
I have had to use my voice against others.
I have had voices used against me.
I have had to journal and write letters to so many people for emotional release. (I do not send these letters, I burn them or send them in the mail with no addresses so they get lost in the ethers).
I have had to get creative and consistent in my healing.
I have had to be celibate.
I have had to remain single.
I have had to...
and the list goes on, the work is here and it is constant but I am not exhausted for I am filling my life with things I enjoy and no longer enslaved to the ideas of society or of family interest. I am free to live my life as me and for me and with the knowledge that THAT IS TOTALLY ACCEPTABLE.
What have you had to do to break down the walls your life has built up around you?
Where can you make more room to let love in?
In a world where we have been told and told again and again that we don't know better, I encourage you to fucking know better. To remember that as an individual you have so much power and knowledge and that with each moment you have an opportunity to love again and again, even if that love is for yourself.
You are enough, you have always been enough and you always will be enough.
I love you
I see you
I cherish you
The world needs your love.
We exist in a world where the Feminine has been disgarded and tossed aside - the Feminine within each of us regardless of gender or sex. In countries all over the world the ideas of sensuality, naked bodies and the truth of her meaning has been washed away from everyone's consciousness and is causing harm to not only humans but to Mother Earth. The power of the Divine Feminine comes not from her physical appearance but from her messages in relation to balance and harmony.
The Divine Feminine is the dance in the twilight through the darkness of the unknown. It is from the Feminine heart that we are gifted forgiveness and that those who have entered wars and slaughters are met with compassion and healing. It is within each of us hiding in the darkest corners of our bodies and our minds and she is ready for her rebirth. As we live on this Earth we can feel her pulse through the quakes and the erruptions, we can feel her fury roar into tsunamis. It is within her that we witness an entirely different strength. The strength to see the beauty in destruction, in surrending, in opening to receive and to hold the dark container for the masculine to rise with it.
The Divine Feminine was something that naturally found its way to me once I began healing some of my deepest wounds including but definitely not limited to, the trauma in my pelvis from medical procedures and from abusive partnerships (emotional, physical and sexual in varying degrees). It is tied to healing the rejection of my father and the belief that my value as a partner was tied to my abilities in the bedroom. Finding the Divine Feminine has guided me through true healing of varying experiences and has opened me up to the most sacred relationship, the relationship to myself. I no longer feel shame surrounding my needs and am able to hold space for so many other people to witness their own self rejections. It is through this work with the Divine Feminine that you will reclaim your powerful sovereignty over your life and your body.
These guides take 15-30 minutes each and are intended to be implemented one at a time, the time was important as I do not want you to make an excuse as to why you cannot take action. If you do not have 15-30 minutes a day of time for yourself you need to re-prioritize. My hope is that these written words inspire you to take these 7 steps in 7 days to activate, nourish and witness the beauty in your Feminine so without further ado, here they are.
1. Introductions: This practice allows your to witness yourself behind the mask, it will help unveil your inner self and introduce you to your inner Feminine.
2. Naked mirror practice and heart massage. Breasts on men and women are connected to the heart and it is important to take care of this part of the body. This exercise is to activate your heart and let you feel love and expansion while balancing hormones and detoxing the body.
3. Refamiliarizing yourself with your body and increasing circulation. Who doesn't enjoy having their body rubbed with oils? Receiving a massage is something I love and one day realized I never give myself them so this is an invitation to you to start a self-massage practice. Every day after I shower I lather myself in oils and feel the beauty of my body, even the squishier parts I use to hide and hate. Now I love when I grab my thighs and belly, it feels so good to release the tension they hold.
I hope you found this helpful on your journey to discovering your juicy self and that you will join the 7 day challenge beginning Monday, September 14 where you will receive daily email updates to support you on your journey. Join other women and seduce the inner Feminine.