I have recently read through The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and it has brought up some really beautiful shifts in perspective when it comes to assumptions – we all know it is not “good” to make assumptions yet it is something we all do.
One of the agreements we are to make to our Self is to not assume, for we truly do not know the answer but yet we assume to know. Assumptions guide us to a conclusion created in the fog of uncertainty within the mind of our own and not the mind of the person whom holds the answers. When we sit in our assumptions we are fostering our fear, shame, imposter cycles that are not made in reality. The traumas and input from the world around us influences our assumptions so much that we are left sitting in a pit of anguish (most of the time). If we assume the best, we are often let down as well. Assumptions lead us down a road of attachment to uncertainty and doubt. Assumptions breed within us a system that is unclear and that same system creates a foundation that is repeated time and time again.
When it comes to making assumptions, I ask you to keep track of how many times a day you form your own assumption about a situation, an answer, a person, even yourself. You are assuming you will have x, y or z by this time. These assumptions create harmful narratives and perpetuate not feeling good enough (shame) and form a reality that you don’t deserve the truth…