How to trust again.
In a world where hardened hearts are common how do you become a warm hearted and trusting person after years of harm in many disguised forms?
We live in a time where hurt gets hurt and love and trust are simply words that fall from a dissected language. Humans are walking around full of anger, resentment, hostility and entitlement and wonder why life is not going their way. We need to do better, all of us. If you believe that you are doing enough, do more.
Relationships of all kinds tear us apart and our parents are no exception. As a child kids can be cruel and parents can be unforgiving. Teachers can destroy self-esteem. There is an endless list of different types of trauma that each individual encounters in their life time and there are ways in which we can allow ourself peace from these places.
As someone who never felt safe, loveable, accepted, good enough, worthy and all the other words that depict feelings of misery and inadequacy I have had to relearn how to live.
I have had to learn how to radically accept myself.
I have had to learn how to radically accept others for who they are.
I have had to put down the martyrdom.
I have had to let go of people for showing me the truth of who they are.
I have had to take ownership of my own victimhood.
I have had to forgive those who have harmed and abused me.
I have had to treat my body better.
I have had to create better boundaries.
I have had to create my own business to feel more freedom in life.
I have had to talk to my parents about the truth.
I have had to read a lot of books.
I have had to use Reiki every day.
I have had to meditate every day.
I have had to open my heart again and again.
I have had to be unapologetic in my authenticity.
I have had to use my voice against others.
I have had voices used against me.
I have had to journal and write letters to so many people for emotional release. (I do not send these letters, I burn them or send them in the mail with no addresses so they get lost in the ethers).
I have had to get creative and consistent in my healing.
I have had to be celibate.
I have had to remain single.
I have had to...
and the list goes on, the work is here and it is constant but I am not exhausted for I am filling my life with things I enjoy and no longer enslaved to the ideas of society or of family interest. I am free to live my life as me and for me and with the knowledge that THAT IS TOTALLY ACCEPTABLE.
What have you had to do to break down the walls your life has built up around you?
Where can you make more room to let love in?
In a world where we have been told and told again and again that we don't know better, I encourage you to fucking know better. To remember that as an individual you have so much power and knowledge and that with each moment you have an opportunity to love again and again, even if that love is for yourself.
You are enough, you have always been enough and you always will be enough.
I love you
I see you
I cherish you
The world needs your love.